My journey through school has been a long and strange one since being diagnosed. I never had any trouble with classes in high school, but college turned into a whole other ball game. I was diagnosed with MS when I was 18 during my senior year of high school. One of my diagnosing symptoms was that by the time I got home, I couldn't remember a lot of what teachers had said. At the point, I didn't realize that MS could cause cognitive issues and was lost on what the hell was going on with my brain.
     I don't talk a lot about what it was being diagnosed in high school. In some cases I feel like it was the perfect time for it to happen. When you're 18, your invincible. No 18 year old wants to think about chronic diseases let alone believe that they could actually effect them. It was kind of just this weird thing that was happening to me. I didn't take the diagnosing process to seriously, though that was I'm sure nothing more than a coping mechanism. I almost completely distracted myself from the process. I just had to see a few doctors every once in a while, other than that I had completely detached myself from it.
     But then it was real, and this the part that I wish came at a different point in my life. Either when I was much younger or much older, just not then. It was a really self deprecating and accusatory time in my life. I thought almost everyday about what I could have done differently that would have prevented me from getting MS. Maybe if I had never smoked pot or never drank it wouldn't have triggered whatever started this, or maybe this was happening because I was recovering from an eating disorder and that must have been what messed up the chemistry in my brain. It just didn't seem like a random thing, this was personal and I didn't know what I had done to deserve it.
     I was pissed, this was my senior year, this was supposed to be fun. I remember once I was sitting in Engish class and started having a panic attack, because I was I'm sure probably thinking how it was my fault, and I just left. Didn't say a word just got up, grabbed my things and left. My school had a lot of on campus police officers and a guard in the front of the parking lot to make sure no one was leaving that shouldn't be, I don't remember if that guard was there or if I even looked. I just got in my car and drove, I drove in circles until it was the time I should be coming home from school. This eventually became a regular occurrence.
     I skipped a lot of class, and no one ever questioned it. Teachers had seen the doctors notes and knew what was going on. They either thought I was in doctors appointments or was sick or God, they were just giving me a break. I felt like if I had to deal with this crap, I was going to milk it. I do remember though having just one class that I would ever feel like going to. It was the class for my school news paper. It was only an hour long, which in the scheme of a day is nothing, but I remember just always looking forward to it. It was an hour that I just didn't have to think about it, it was an hour for whatever understood reason no one asked me about it. I remember the teacher being the only one I had I had who wouldn't treat me like someone outside of my diagnoing process. The only one who would genuinely ask me about class work without expecting the response of "I can't do it because I'm sick." It was just a very accepting space, and I don't think I ever thanked him for that.
     Most kids were skipping school and smoking or going to the beach, but all I was doing was driving in circles and hanging out in parks. A few times a week I would leave school, drive in circles for an hour until my friend was awake, then I would pick him up and we would go and sit in parks. For hours, just sit in parks. It was exactly what I needed. I was grasping at any opportunity to not have to talk about it. I felt really jipped at this point, I was throwing up and sick all of prom night (and not for the fun reason), I missed my high school graduation, I missed being excited to go away to college, but I didn't let that stop me from going.
     I was thrilled to be going away to college, looking forward to being around people who wouldn't ask me how I felt all the time, but it didn't go as I planned. When I got to college it was like someone else had taken over my brain. I was studying in the same ways I always had, yet for the first time in my life, I was failing classes. I began to slump into a deep depression and had a difficult time coming to terms with these new cognitive issues. I stopped going to classes, it began to seem pointless to show up. I started having horrible panic attacks that would make studying even more impossible. I spent almost the entire year held up in my dorm room, unable to get my head around anything. As expected, I failed every class I took that year, and decided I needed to come home.
     The next year I decided to continue taking a full load of classes, but was going to take them all online. I had still made no changes to my learning style and expected things to go smoothly. Well, they didn't. I would read a paragraph from a text book and instantly have no recollection of what I just read. I couldn't keep an attention span long enough to watch a lecture and things started to feel impossible again. This year did not go much better than the last and I began to think that college was just not going to be a possibility.
     I took a semester off to just give myself a break and figure out what I really wanted to do. I had always intended on graduating from college and had no idea it would become such a disaster. It was then I really took a step back and figured out how I needed to do things. I started taking just a few classes at a time, I had learned that a full course load was just not an option for me. I slowly got through my AA by the time I was 25. Most people would not be that proud of not finishing their AA until they were in their mid twenties and at first I as embarrassed, but I was damn proud of myself. Getting that far in my education was one of the hardest things I have done. My mom framed my diploma and people have thought it's a joke to get such an insignificant thing framed. But I worked my ass of for that, and I don't care how insignificant it seems, I am proud.
     At this point with my AA finished, I have taken on the challenge of finishing my English degree. I am back to taking classes online because that's just what works best for me. I don't need to remember everything someone said to me in a classroom hours before, if I forgot anything it's still all there on the computer. I am still only taking a class or two at a time, I'm not taking any right now because I haven't been able to figure out to balance my current job with school. But, I'm not embarrassed by that. Maybe I wont finish for a few years and there is nothing wrong with that. I don't think there is anything embarrassing about wanting an education. It doesn't matter if you are 30 in a classroom full of 18 year old, there's no age limit on an education.